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  1. Great article. This is exactly spot on from what I have experienced. I had to grow a backbone to stand up to my whining students. It was tough but something I definitely had to do.

  2. Funny story about how I finally changed my thinking on this…

    In my first school, we had an open floor plan that was great for allowing parents to see what their kids were learning, but really not ideal for safety reasons.

    So, I put up a kneewall to separate the training area from the guest area. No big deal, or so I thought…

    Next thing I know, I have parents calling me complaining about not being able to see their kids, blah, blah, blah (now, for those of you who don’t know, a kneewall is a “half wall” – this one was about 3.5 feet high, so all anyone had to do was stand up to observe class).

    I was young, inexperienced, and freaking out. “Oh crap, what if they quit?”

    As it so happens, one of the moms who was doing the most complaining ended up putting it all in perspective for me.

    She comes to me and says, “Mr. Massie, I have to apologize. I was griping to my husband about ‘that stupid wall’ and he just turned and looked at me and said, ‘It’s his school – he can do whatever he wants with it. Stop complaining.’ So, I’m sorry, he was absolutely right.”

    I thanked her and thought about it for a while after she left. Now, it bears mentioning that the dad trained at a very traditional kung fu school that I had referred him to, and also that these were about the nicest people you’d ever want to meet.

    I finally concluded that yes, it was my school, and yes, I could do whatever the heck I wanted with it. It seems obvious what the common sense answer was, but when you care about your students, you can let your emotions get in the way of making sound day-to-day business decisions.

    And, as it turns out, putting up that wall improved our classes tremendously. In the next two locations I taught in, I actually built a wall to separate the guest area from the classroom. Wouldn’t you know that no one complained? Probably because they’d never really had it any other way. :)

  3. Hey Mike,

    Great article.

    I’m sure you’re familiar with the saying, “What you focus on expands”. When I first realized this it was a light bulb moment for me…

    I realized that the more I talked and thought about high maintenance people, the more I’d attract them. I imprisoned myself with servicing and keeping them happy, but I wasn’t – and that’s a crappy way to run a business. It’s supposed to be fun!

    As soon as I changed my focus to helping the ones who deserved my attention, the high maintenance people moved on (probably to look for some other sucker!), and I started seeing more positive people drawn to the club (did I mention I was a LOT happier?).

    Changes are necessary for growth as you say, and the ones who resist and complain probably aren’t worth your time. If they want to act like spoiled brats then some other parent can take care of them.

    I remember something Joe Vitale wrote – to paraphrase – “People glorify the past, complain about the present and fear the future.”

    Unfortunately for many people this is true…

    - Jason

  4. Hah!

    Agreed – thanks for chiming in with that, Jason.

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